[ingodshands]

I tend to agree with Jackie, maybe there is secrets, maybe she has not told anybody about you.

When your birthmother says her life is "good", she probably means her family life is good, and she is worried that if the "secret" comes out, what will it do to her family. Will they still think of her the same, will they judge her. This must be pretty scary for her.

I know it is hard for you, and I know all you want to do is see her, have a place in her heart. For I feel the same.

We cant make our birthmothers want contact with us, that is something only they can decide. They need to work through their fears, pain, secrets. Unfortunately not all of them are strong enough emotionally to do that. It is too painful for them.

Dont lose hope though, maybe one day she might change her mind. Trust me, although she has told you no contact, it does not mean she is not thinking about you, or regretting that she feels unable to change how things are at the moment.

Collette