[nursie]

Throwing support your way. This must be horrendously difficult. Not only are you accused of something you didn't do but it is tearing up your family and keeping you from your loved one.
I hope they resolve this soon.
Surely the investigative people know that kids esp. 3yo can confabulate all kinds of stories. I hear it daily with 3 of the children I have 2,3, & 4 yo boys. "He did it, Daddy did it, Sissy did it" they come up with all kinds of false accusations. Even when you confront them with the truth because you watched them do it themselves they will still stick with their make believe story.
I understand the mandated reporter thing and of course if a child tells you something you must report it even if you know/feel that the child isn't telling the truth. The reporter just reports the comments and physical evidence and then the child protection intake folks make the final judgement.
I will pray that this ends soon for your family and for the sake of your fd and her birth family.
Let us know when this mess gets cleared up.
Hugs