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Hi Wilna,

I dont think that you should in anyway feel bad because you dont feel like you will be able to parent a child of a different race. It does not mean you dont love children or believe that every child deserves a home. It does not make you a bad person if you are not willing to take on the responsibility. You have to parent the child that you feel you will do a good job parenting.

As an African American I dont feel offended by your comments at all. Parenting a child that is different from you is more than just a notion. YOu have to be committed to expose that child to it's culture, deal with the negativity that you will face from the outside world and maybe your family. You have to be honest with youself and say "can I be the best parent I can be to this child". You can't guilt trip yourself into parenting this child. Again I repeat it does not make you a bad person.