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Collette,
I am sorry that your bmother is not in the position to be more involved with you. It must be very frustrating and frightening for both of you.
I feel strongly that even though I relinquished a baby, I didn’t relinquish parental responsibilities. One of those responsibilities is to be honest. (This from someone who didn’t tell her kids her “secret” until late in their lives.) No question is off base. I told my kids about the existence of a half brother as soon as I could after he found out about their existence. Their reactions were their responsibility, not mine. It helps that I had a lot of confidence in them that they would continue to love and accept me.
Your bmother may not have that confidence or good fortune.
Another responsibility I did not relinquish was “to be there.” I don’t know what the future holds for my son. But if there is any need for me to “be there” I will do what I can just as I would for any child of mine.
My husband and I are experiencing this with his son right now.
I think it is good that your bmother picked up the letter. I believe it is of great value to her. Is there any way you could continue a relationship with her sister without her sister feeling disloyal to your bmother?
Julie
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