[kburch]

Thank you all so much for sharing your lives with us who are just waiting to jump into the trenches! And I don't think you are hypocrites at all!! You just remind us all that sometimes love means making tough choices when placed in impossible circumstances, not just touchy-feely lets-go-pick-daisies fun!

I think the thing that is scaring me most right now is the "We told you so" I can almost hear coming from my family when the issues arise... How do I explain to them that 1) I have heard about the issues that can come up when adopting older children from the system, 2) I know I have no parenting experience, 3) I know this is probably the craziest thing I've ever thought about doing, but 4) I really feel that I am supposed to do this? It just really doesn't make sense to people on the 'outside', does it? I guess I just need to accept that and move on...

Anyway, thank you again for being open and helping us choose to walk into these situations with our eyes open... God bless!!

P.S. - DH and I will be meeting with our caseworker and the case manager for (our - we hope!) 2 boys sometime in the next week or two, and this thread has been very helpful for building up my list of questions for the meeting... Wish us luck (and wisdom)!!