[crick]

Lucy - I agree with some of your points, and goodness knows you have tons more experience than I do but I don't think that "charming" necessarily means RAD.
I think the "charming" and "eager to please" are both signs of an attachment issue but then again, I believe most if not all "our" kids have some type of attachment issue regardless of how they are described. However, I don't think that all attachment problems are a definite RAD classification though, do you?

Sage - as far as the single parent issue goes, I think there are a lot of kids, girls especially, who have been abused by men who would do much better being placed with a single mom. I do agree with your excellent point that a lot of kids do transfer their anger towards bmom to the amom.

That's why I love this board. We all have so many different experiences and am reminded often of things to keep my eyes open for as time goes on. Just because an issue wasn't prevalent in the beginning, it doesn't mean that it won't show up later.

Pez - in my opinion, the profile barely scratches the surface but Lucy brings up excellent points of things to look for. I also wanted to add, if you are looking at sibling groups, I would ask who the "alpha dog" is of the group and find out everything you can of that child's behaviors and issues.

Crick