[HappyMomAnna]

You know Dad--I wonder how many people have actually sen this sort of questions in training? Because we did....not quite as emotionally but still pretty hard hitting.... I would like others to let me know if they were given anything like this?......

...and at the same time if you did learn about and hear about these FACTS before you had a child placed--what did you think?

Personally I remember thinking a lot of things... Mostly about the fact that with enough love children will thrive---With a stay at home mom and all the time I have....we can manage that! I remember telling my husband at least twice--oh honey don't worry about that those cases are rare and extreme....

Yeah!

Well, falling on your butt and needing back surgery because an angry 5 year old pushes you over the baby gate--is a real eye opener! Living in physical pain everyday since is a hard way to go...having your own mental health doctor ask you if you might have some deep seeded anger toward your child over it...hurts... Even if you don't even think about it and never really did blame it on her.... I guess even a good doctor might find it hard not to have negative feelings about a child with some of the issues a special needs child might bring?

It is a hard road! It takes more of everything then anyone can even imagine until the situation is there.... It is NOT a light thing to become a parent--it is even harder to become a special needs parent...