[Love_um_all]

I just wanted to share. I have been fostering 4 years. I just adopted my little girl this week. We started out wanting to adopt. I had 4 newborns. Two were allegedly "sure things". One only stayed 2 weeks and went to family who were ready and waiting for him and the last newborn I received, after being torn up by losing the two boys, DH said, love her no matter what, just enjoy her for her being a baby, and just wait it out. well, it has been a long 17 months, filing an intervention and winning, we finally are a family. It just take time. I believe that if you really want one, you will get one. I also have a 13mo boy, we got when he was 5 months, (it is like twins right now) He is getting TPR in a few months, pre trial is the end of the month. So, we are getting two babies in a row.
In time you just learn the ropes, learn to be patient. and just see what happens. No matter how much you ask the cw's what will happen, they don't know the future. What are your chances? I would think pretty good, if you are willing to work through the good bad and ugly. But, there really is more smiles then tears, fostering sharpens your parenting skills bc you have to learn to parent so many different kinds of children.
I would not trade my path. I loved all those babies, but, I was just there to help them, and if they would have stayed, I would not have my little girl and soon to be little boy.
It is hard to give a baby back after those protective maternal instinsts kick in. But, it is worth it, to get your forever children. And you are also more grateful, more thankful, and more protective when it does work.