[ingodshands]

"DH is worried that as a teenager this boy will want to return to the mother he was never allowed to have."

If his mother had given him up, instead of him being taken, you still have the same risk later in life.

It is natural curiosity for many adoptees, to want to find their birthmother/father.

I think all you can do is tell the TRUTH when the child is old enough to understand. Tell him what happened. If he decides later in life, he wants to find/contact his birthmother, then you both as his adoptive parents must respect that decision. It will be nothing personal to you both. You will find if you are supportive and honest with him, he will never leave you. But he might out of curiosity just want to know who his birthmom is, and have some kind of contact.

Hope this has helped. Good luck.

Collette