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I have been looking a little bit for a thread like this, but haven't been able to find one, if you know where there is one, please direct me to it.

DH and I are applying to adopt a foster child in Canada. His bparents will have parental rights terminated. (Bmom has three other children already adopted after rights terminated.) I am not worrying too much about attachment, as he is in my parents' foster home, and he knows me as a 'person in his life' (he's almost 2). We also plan on being open with him about how he came to be in our family (his adoption will be open).

Here's the worry - how do we explain to him that his mother did not "give him up because she loved him", but that he was taken from her? This has the potential to become a "my birth mom who loved me vs. my evil adoptive parents who stole me" issue. The thing is, his bparents can't care for him. Bmom's life is in so much crisis right now, I think she has "given up hope" of ever parenting him.

DH is worried that as a teenager this boy will want to return to the mother he was never allowed to have.

Any thoughts? Are we just being paranoid? I feel like love should cover it all, but I know that it will take more.

B