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I was wondering about the initial meeting and time you waited while adopting older children. I'm assuming most older child adoptions are done through state systems, and I'm sure they are different from state to state, but a general idea would be great to hear about. We are adopting from another state so that will probably have an effect also, anyone else adopt out of state?

First, what happened when you first met? Did you just say "hi, nice to meet you" and then talk about the weather and find out info from the case worker? Or did you really get to talk with the child (children) for a while? How many times did you meet with them? Were the foster parents helpful if they were involved?

Then, what happened after being matched, meeting with them, and I guess for sure deciding this is what (or who) you wanted? I don't mean taking them home, but before that happened. What was the wait like? Did you talk to the foster parents more? Did you call the child (children) about anything?

Anything you can contribute would be great. My husband and I just get kind of anxious about the unexpected, me more than him. I'm not much for surprises and always plan and organize most things in my life. My friends always used to joke that I would be one of those Mom's with children dressed beautifully and clean all the time, and I would have all their activities planned, and their rooms would be neat, etc. Anyway, thanks for any info you can share.