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Nicole -- I guess that's where I'm coming from in letting their true perspectives show through. Maybe it's just a matter of getting educated rather than an inherent disrespect for birthparents. But if that's the case then they would be receptive to the guidance to read up some more on raising adoptive children. If that is not the case, then halelujah that it would be less likely for someone to get chosen that would project such negative impressions to their adopted child. I know that sounds harsh, but there are plenty of p-aparents who have great respect for birthparents, and would live that in their daily lives.
I do see yours and Brandy's point about helping them express what their true colors are. But with a "letter like that" with obvious disrespect that is not just based on hapless ignorance, then I say let it lie.
Maybe I'm a little riled up after reading some opinions over the past couple of days here that made me wish there was a greater weeding out process for those aparents that just don't get it. Argh!
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