[InionGrinn]

Lynn and Love4, I feel such empathy towards you as mothers. I am an adoptee myself but also a mother...reading your posts has made me think of what I would do if one of my children left me to search out her 'destiny'. It seems like a rite of passage that happens, not infrequently, within the adoptive community as well as the non-adoptive community. I'mnot a bible thumper but remember well the story of The Prodigal Son...
Snuffie had an astute comment regarding the relative young age of your daughters that have run off in search of themselves and essentially abandoned you - I think it is important to keep telling yourself each day that it's not YOU it's their search for themselves..
Personally I have just started to slowly search but have not told my adoptive parents because I do not want to hurt them, I don't want them to think they didn't give me enough, I am not sure they will understand my need to search for ME and that it's totally separate from THEM.
Moms Lynn and Love4, you are wonderful angels. Your unconditional love is a testament to the depths of love us humans have the capability for. Keep it up. No one said love is easy. Just by being there, in the background, for your daughters to fall back on - whether they will call on you or not- IS helping them, IS making them feel safe, IS making them feel wanted, unabandoned, unconditionally loved that IS love, THAT is being a mother. Wait it out, stay the course.
Love, thoughts,
Chrissy