Thanks for the input, Amom.
BTW.... Want you to know your letter was definitely good in terms of what you were saying.... it was just the re-structuring for you.
I have read some where you can tell the p-aparents are probably scared sh!@$less by the thought of open adoption. Now, any bmoms get those? What do you do?
I would never tell someone to fudge in their letter and make it seem like they're willing to consider open adoption if they're not, but the problem is that sometimes (not always) the p-aps that want closed also have a sort of... disrespect... for bparents. (Hope I'm not offending anyone here..... not all p-aps, just some.) You know what I mean.... letter is full of cliches and token phrases but there is no genuine feeling for the bparents, and you can tell the phrases are just there to make a bmom consider them...
Now what the heck do you DO with a letter like that?
Hmmm.