[love4]

Yes, my daughter has every right to have a relationship with her birthfamily. She has every right to choose who she wants to spend her time with. She has every right to walk out on us. She has done just that. We have loved her and supported her and she crushed the hands that loved and nurtured her. That is her right.

On the other hand I have rights too. When she decides she wants us back in her life I could slam the door. Would I do that? Never, Never, Never. I love her and respect her enough to not hurt her in any way.

If I were an abusive parent I could see why she would not want anything to do with us. I was not. When she is doing o.k. she reminds us of how much she loves us and she appreciated all we have done for her. It's like, "thanks mom, you were great, goodbye!" Doesn't make any sense. Not a very kind thing to do to anyone.