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I believe in reunion...I would not do anything differently, if given the opportunity to do it over...I would still help my daughter find her b-relatives like I did...in sharing my experiences it is my hope that I might spare someone some heartache in knowing that this is important in to many adopted people...reunion, I mean...BUT with it there may be disconnection....be prepared...and maybe you won't be shocked like I was and am...just be prepared...that is all...I'm not out to scare anyone ...just educate...in my case my daughter was removed by S.S. and perhaps in some of these cases the b-relatives are not interested in encouraging the child they think they lost or was taken from them to keep in contact with the adoptive relatives...my daughter's b-relatives have proven they don't care about any one else's feelings...heck, they don't even care about my daughter's feelings...harsh, but accurate...and yet my daughter has chosen to live amongst the ones she looks more like...she has never been nasty about it just neglectful... and ironically, she was freed for adoption because of "neglect"...
thanks for asking...
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