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Let me first say that I'm sorry for the loss of your father. (My mom died one year ago this month.)
But......I can also say that many of our parents are the types who say that 'life must go on'. I know my mom was that way. While coming back home from her 'service' (we had to drive quite a distance to where she and my father were living.)...we got a call from our attorney about a seemingly great situation available within a few weeks. While this took us completely by surprise; I have to tell you that it was nice to have something else to think about at that time. The situation never panned out....but for awhile....it was nice. However, less than one month later from the time my mom died; we learned of our lovely daughter that we have now. She came to us a couple of months later.
I, too......thought and continue to think about how my mom did not know our youngest baby. While we were not extremely close....in some ways, we were. I miss this. But.....I know that she knew we were very dedicated to having more babies. I know that she thought we were doing a decent job of parenting...and she was crazy about the children we already had.
Consider that your dad knew what was in your heart at the time of his passing. Treasure the memories and material items you have of/from him. Consider that you will pass some of these material things...and all of the memories to your new one. These (memories) are the things that last. These are the things that keep the thoughts and lives of our loved ones 'alive'.
You will have these things to share with your new baby.
I hope this helps.
Most Sincerely,
Linny
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