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It doesn't seem that we want Kelley to compromise on the situation. I don't think anyone truly wants that...
More that it needs to be realized that everyone here can get what they want... just not with each other -- which means a bad match/ no match -- Time to find the right match.
Writing down what you want clarifies everything without trying to compromise anything. It just help solidify that this (list) is what you want.
Even her husband can have a closed adoption on his end... he doesn't need to look at pics, go to visits, anything. My boyfriend doesn't go to any visits though he's seen his daughter at the after-school care with her nanny (who works there). He's not as needy as I am of her presence... He does love those pics tho!
Good luck.
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