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I agree that this sounds like a bad match.
If she might EVER want more than you want, you will feel threatened, she will feel betrayed... The child will feel?? In the middle...
If you are only willing to do the little bit of openness that is not enough. I will tell you what I told my child's amother (who didn't apparently listen to me anyway)... Open adoption is hard, You need to research it, read up on it, talkk to people... You need to think about it A LOT and then you need to want it from your heart. If not it will not be fair to a lot of people. To you, to the birthmother, to the child... If you do not, you need to tell this birthmother so. This is not the child for you if this child is supposed to grow up with visits from its birthfamily.
This is a hard thing, giving up a baby (on your part) but sometimes the roads we travel in life are very difficult.
Maia
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Last edited by Volfe : 11-02-2004 at 07:06 AM.
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