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Dear Candie,
I am an adoptee. I was adopted at 5 weeks of age.
I had wonderful adoptive parents whom I loved very much. But I always felt an almost spiritual bond with my bmom and for all of my life wanted to find her or have her find me.
After reading many many posts here it is evident to me that just as everyone is unique so are their feelings. I never had any anger toward my birth mom but some do either because of their life after adoption or because of what has been said about their bmom. I felt my bmom had not been given a choice in surrendering me because of the era I was born in.
I have been reunited with my birth siblings (sadly my birth mom passed away before I could reunite with her.) It is one of the most wonderful experiences of my life to finally KNOW>
I look very, very much like my birth mom and have all of her mannerisms. I love all of my birth siblings. But again each one has his or her own unique feelings about having another sister.
Also, if your daughter is only 21 she may or may not be ready for a relationship. She may be overjoyed or overwhelmed. Feelings change and mature as one grows older.
I wish you much joy in your search and reunion. I am a firm believer that all things happen for a reason and all things happen in their own time. When the time is right you will find your daughter. It may be now or in the future.
Hugs
Snuffie
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