[michellemartin]

First, I suggest writing a letter even if you dont send it. A letter technique I use from Dr. John Gray (author of men are from mars) though...

Start with what makes you angry. Let it all out.
I dont like...
i resent...
I feel frustrated...
I feel angry...
I want...

Next feeling is sadness,
It hurts...
I feel dissapointed...
I feel sad...
I feel unhappy...
I wish...

Then comes Fear,
I feel worried...
I feel afraid...
I feel scared...
I need...

Then remorse and apologies,
I apologize...
I feel embarrassed...
I am sorry...
I feel ashamed...
I am willing...

Last is love and understanding,
I love...
I appreciate...
I realize...
I forgive...
I would like...
I trust...


Then next step I suggest that you let her know exactly what she is doing that you dont approve of. And let her know exactly what steps you will take if the behavior continues. I hope it works out for you.