[raisinette]

What if, after almost 2 years, the bmom continues to overstep set boundaries, even to the point of visibly our child? We've tried everything (I think!) and nothing gives! She refuses to go to counseling and badgers us to go way beyond the original adoption agreement (which we have to the point of unbelief) and then when we tell her no on something, she tells us we owe it to her because she gave us her baby, or tells us we scammed her to just get the baby! She won't see how this is just a bad relationship all the way around and especially for our dd. If she's doing this to us, she won't hesitate to do it to dd in the future. I've seen her do it to every one of her family members. I feel awful saying these things about her, but I'm at my wits' end.