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Sonata - Thanks so much for your input. It is valuable information. Since there isn't any kind of handbook on this kind of reunion and you are right... there can be a lot of baggage on the bmother side. I'm only beginning to understand just how the adoption affected me.
For me, I sort of went through everything at the start and then it was just expected that I "get on with life", only you never really do. As the bmother, I have never felt whole and have looked and longed for the day of the reunion and never really dealt with the pain of what I went through. I never really understood how deeply the pain went until now.
I've felt for a long time that when we did finally reunite that slowly and over time is the only way we can build a lasting relationship but everything in me cries for immediacy. Thanks for your wise words and coming from the opposite perspective, they are welcome.
Thanks Tara for your post. I'm happy to have found this site. I've never connected with other bmothers. To be able to find others who share my experience means a lot.
I am looking forward to the reunion with hope and my husband is helping me have perspective!
}i{ Butterfly
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