[vicrose]

As an adult adoptee...my thoughts on this are to wait until the child is much older, because I feel that she needs to bond with you first, and she needs to be emotionally ready before you can spring anything on her...such as meeting her birthparents. for myself, it took a really long time before I could think about meeting my birthparents....38 years to be exact, and even when I did find my birthmother...she was not emotionally ready to have me in her life. YOU are her world right now, but I would definitely make sure she gets lots of love, nurturing, and counseling, because there may be a day in the future that she wants to openly speak about her foster care years, and her birthfamily. You said that she was taken from birthparents not because of abuse, but because they were incarcerated from time to time, they were definitely not looking after her best interests by being incarcerated time after time, and even though you say she wasn't...it does sound like they were neglectful of her needs...which was her needing parents. It sound like you are a very caring adoptive parent, and it's good that you have the birthparents info, but now is not a good time, she needs you now more than ever to protect her best interests.....and she really needs time to bond with your family. She may be sad for a while, but with the love and support you show her daily, she will hopefully come out of that sadness, and grow into a happy child. I wish you all the love with your new daughter!! Brenda