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Been through it ...
We too have been through it ... although having the children removed in our area is not the first option and not done until after the investigation is complete - unless a threat is considered imminent or someone was "definitely" hurt.
Its VERY hard and you will need to get as much support around you as you can
1) Contact your foster parents association (I could probably guarantee you that they are VERY VERY few foster parents who havent had false claims against them -- its to be expected.) They can offer you support and advice.
2) Request written letters of support from people who know your parenting style, your son's speech therapist etc who can support your take on things (including his speech delays).
3) know the facts - know when/if your husband was alone with the kids. Know when their last baths were, when the bruises appeared etc.
4) Fight for your foster daughter - once she is out of your home a week - its harder to get her moved back.
Anyway - as a result of the trauma to our adopted kids we swore of any more fostering until they are MUCH older (if ever!). (we had an older foster child than our own kids).
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