|
ICPCs
Hi there,
There is actually an ICPC from both states and both have to approve everything before visiting and then placement can occur. It's a lot of back and forth and waiting for piddly things (ex: an acceptance letter that has to be on a specific letterhead, faxed but not valid until the mailed copy is received.)
We are experiencing a lot of lack of communication between both the ICPCs and the social workers. I get the feeling that we (pre-adoptive parents) have been more involved (than we should be) in the behind the scences and constantly pushing the process along.
If you have any experience with special needs (special ed) at school, then you know what I am trying to explain. Lots of bureaucracy, waiting, disappointment, worry, compromise (sometimes too much) and then finally a half-baked end product that you will finish up on your own.
That is how I am anticipating this to end up. I see the pattern. After going through all of this, I now see why many children wait so long and pre-adopts back out. I wish there was a better way.
I think though sometimes its just the human element too. Somebody rubs someone the wrong way (worker personality conflicts), new workers, etc and then things tend to take longer than necessary.
Just buckle down for the long haul. It is something you as the pre-adopt have no control over.
It is just so ironic that they will drop foster children off at your home in the middle of the night when the child is in a total crisis; yet when you are willing to make a committment to a child who is ready for adoption, it is unbelievably difficult on all parties.
ICPC is only a bump in the road; its not the worst part. From what I understand its someone who sorts through the papers, makes sure everything is there, then approves (on the "appropriate letterhead").
Best wishes
|