HI!
I'm a bit of a lurker here.
I have recently begun requesting information from agencies regarding adoption.
DH and I have been trying to conceive since March. I know that's not a looong time by many standards, but I have had some complications, been dx with PCOS and have pretty much been advised that the odds are not in our favor to conceive naturally.
I am currently taking Clomid, but so far, two cycles, no dice.
DH and I have agreed that we do NOT to pursue intrusive infertility treatments, so by March, if the clomid hasn't worked, we are moving on to adoption. The reason I am lurking here now and creating information is so that if/when march comes around, DH and I are ready to dive right in...I've already done homework! (Plus it's good for me to refocus my energy on something other than temperatures and the big O )(you ladies know which "O" I'm talking about! hahahaha
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I feel VERY fortunate that close friends and family that know our "plan" have been supportive and I have not heard one bad thing from anyway.
It's weird b/c I don't feel a sense of loss at all over the idea of never being pregnant. I do get a little sad over the idea of not seeing what my DH and I can create together, but that is about it.
I personally feel it is all very individual for all of us. Some people can and want to go through years and years of infertility treatments and pursue a bio-baby, and I wish those individuals all the luck in the world! Then there are some like me, who are willing to try mild infertility treatments (the drugs)... then there are those that are just meant to adopt! This is what makes the world go 'round!
As for good days vs. bad days...I think we ALL have them. I know I have bad days. When I do, I come on here and read all these adoption success stories and it warms my heart and makes me want to start the process RIGHT NOW! (I would if it weren't for the promise I made to DH that we'd wait it out on the clomid first!)
I think if your heart is pointing you in the direction of adoption, how can that be a bad thing??? It's a blessing!
Becky