"For me, grieving has been a continuous cycle. I still have the occasional bad day, especially when others act like adopting is second best."
I am a reunited B-mom, my daughter is 22 and great. I posted and quoted from your post to let you know how powerful and wonderful your words are. Upon meeting my daughters Mom and telling her what a splendid job she did she replied "Oh it was easy, you did the hard part; you see you made the best out of what in all likelyhood given your young age was probably an accident but I on the other hand chose to adopt and that is never accidential." No need to explain why I treasure her.
Tara