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Hi,
My husband and I are completing the homestudy process to adopt a waiting child (up to age 3) in the foster care system. Our final homestudy interview is this evening. We experienced infertility as well as a spontaneous pregnancy a couple of years ago that ended in my sixth month. Unfortunately, our daughter did not survive, but we cherish the moments we had with her. We've since gone through infertility treatments and tried to conceive naturally with no success. We made the decision to adopt the slightly older child because our hearts go out to those children who have had a difficult start in life.
For me, grieving has been a continuous cycle. I still have the occasional bad day, especially when others act like adopting is second best. I'm now at a point to where what I want most is to be a mother. Unlike infertility treatments, adoption makes motherhood a guaranteed reality. I can now throw out all of the clinic success rate statistics and focus on the day when we first meet our child. What a wonderful day it will be.
Good luck to you. Feel free to pm me if you want to talk more.
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