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re: developing a relationship with your birthchild?
Thanks Tara.
There are so many issues around reunion that I never expected and they are all so very overwhelming. But this one probably is my greatest fear.
From the start I began talking with and emailing her afamily, especially her mom and that has helped. She stays in constant contact with me and has been reassuring which helps some but I know there are still going to be relationship pains and if my birthdaughter or her family pulled away it would be painful. She is very close to her family so if there was any reservations from them, it would influence her a great deal.
I see them as very much a part of my life because they have something very precious to me. They have graciously extended a welcome into their family so in all I feel confident that pulling away won't happen. But, real life has a different way of working!
Do you live close to your bdaughter? Did you see her often in the past year? Does she call/write often? And how old was she when she contacted you?
I'll be glad when the unknown is known!
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