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Originally Posted By wendy

I will be 23 on 3/7. I am due to have my 2nd child on Mother's day. I have a two year old son who turned six months 3 days after my 21st bday. I came here for advice when I was beat up by my ex two months into my pregnancy with my current. I read all advice carefully and did lots of thinking. I too have struggled with my son. You are very lucky to have your fiancee in your life and hopefully you are able to talk with each other honestly and openly about what you want. I knew that to be fair to my son and this baby that an adoption was the best thing for me to do. It is great to hear from so many concerned people here, but the decision has to made solely between the two of you. Things are probably different and a little bit easier since you have him there with you. But it is still a hard decision regardless. I am very glad to hear that you are considering your options, again, hopefully together. The only advice that I can express and hope you do take is to think of the baby and your 1 year old first. I do hope that you are not considering the more popular choice these days, but that too is your decision. I find you very brave and respectable for coming here for advice and at least wanting to give the baby a chance. No matter what your decision, I am sure it will be hard...but stay strong together and know that, from one mother to another, we put our children first. If not, we would not ask for help right? Good luck and God bless.