jbdrichey,
We got into all of this because of a relative who at 15 had been on and off drugs and we were told that if she lost the baby they would want us to foster her. She ended up keeping the baby and getting alot of support from her mom and gma, but we decided to go ahead and foster only. In my heart I always wanted a girl, because we have 2 (soon 3) boys, but my dh was satisfied with 2 "forever" kids and I felt blessed to be able to foster.
Our first placement of 9 months went to a family with an autistic daughter. Everyone thought this child would have special needs, but she is doing just fine. I believe it is because of their experience with working with PT/OT's and advocating for her right off the bat. We still keep in touch....she's like a niece to me.
We are now adopting a sib group of two. 19 month old girl we got from the hospital at 2 days old and her 5 month old brother. Miracles do happen!! My dh (who really wanted no kids, but I wanted EIGHT
....so we compromised) is crazy about them and is a wonderful daddy to all 4! They have blended right in with our 2 bios and really could not feel more like they just belong here.
I agree, that this is a most awesome place to share and learn....so few people in my "real life" have any clue what it is like to go through the ups and downs. This forum has been a godsend for me!
bumpkin,
I may have read somewhere before and forgot, but didn't realize you were also "40 something". Isn't it fun???!!! I tell you I just don't get so ruffled about things that drove me nuts with my older boys. I wouldn't trade being a mom to 2 babies at 40 for anything!! Even if I have been called grandma twice now
....okay, so it was by someone who looked to be about 15.