Hi Becca....I am also new to this forum but I've been reading for months. I am in the same situation; my placed daughter also "found" me recently and we've had several face to face meetings and we talk several times a week via the phone.
At the beginning I also wondered what she wanted with me and how I could give her what she asked for. I was so afraid she'd "blame" for placing her and would see me as I am now and not as I was when I had her. To my relief I discovered that she didn't "want" anything more than I could give. We just let things flow. We didn't get into any of the "hard stuff" until after our 3rd meeting and even then she started out by saying please don't feel you have to share anything that makes you uncomfortable or unhappy. All of that was awesome and very mature on her part BUT still I find myself uncomfortable with her most of the time. She's my daughter who really isn't my daughter.... we have no history together. There has never been another relative in my life that I've had this difficulty with.
When I placed her I thought it meant I'd never see her again and even though I thank goodness we've met and that she is alive and well; its difficult to interact with her, ya' know?
This whole adoption thing is complicated, there don't seem to be many guidelines and I feel blessed just knowing there are others out there like me....Good Luck Girl.....Tara