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Hello-
My situation is night and day from yours, I was supposed to get pictures and updates but never get a thing ever, for the last five years I have suffered every holiday, this year I knew she started school but no word nothing. As for holding us to the same standard as adoptive parents when it comes to open adoption let me remind all adoptive parents you hold all the cards, you have our children and can cut off access at anytime with no word whatsoever or a reason. Open adoption are not legally enforcable they are just an agreement to agree. I know you are hurting right now seeing your son with another family, I don't know your story as to why you placed, but I can tell you that first and foremost get counselling and journal. Also don't be afraid to let the family know that right now is a very hard time emotionally for you could they maybe for a short time send pictures of him alone maybe so that you can just enjoy him. One last thing do not kid yourself he may seem happy in those pictures but he is just a baby and he knows you are not with him, which does hurt studies do show that.
Brandy Bottini-Elkins
Lifemother to Amberlie Jeanette aka Amelia Hurt 6-23-99
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Brandy
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