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I have a very weird situation. 1 1/2 months ago me and my husband found out that my nephew and his wife had their daughter taken away and placed into the foster system. They were both incarcerated at the time. We approached them about us adopting their daughter. They both agreed to this and we went back and forth for a month trying to get things together. Dealing with Social Services, The Guardian at litam and Indian Child Welfare. We started our Home Study as well as getting licensed for foster care so that they could move 4 month old baby to our house as soon as possible. Bio mother has changed her mind 4 or 5 times because Social Services tells her she can get her child back if she will work her case plan and attend treatment. Bio Mother is very unstable - been in prison, jail most of her adult life. Had very bad upbringing and wants whats best for her baby. Our nephew is not Bio Father but signed birth cert. Social Services cannot find bio father. Both our nephew and his wife went to treatment and decided to work case plan - both left this week. And now again want us to try to adopt thier little girl. We told them the last time that we were done and would move on with our homestudy to find another little girl. They are now both "wanted" and want to leave the state. They want to draw up a paper they can sign voluntarily terminating parental rights with the stipulation that we can adopt - they want to have this notarized so that they can leave town. Not sure how legal that would be. Very confused about what to do - Should we just forget about this little girl that we want so badly and have worked so hard to get or do we keep trying and hope things work out - Dont know who I can talk to about the legality of this situation. Social Service worker is not much help. Guardian at litam wants to see the child in our home as does Indian Child Welfare but is concerned that mother doesnt know what she is doing. HELP