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I don't know if its ever something I will stop wondering about - some days/weeks I don't think about it at all and sometimes its worse. I also grieve over the idea of our child not "inheriting" our athletic abilities, our my creative side....things like that.
But then I remember what other posters have said - a bio child could look absolutely nothing like us AND not get the traits that I would most want to pass on....or get traits I would NOT want to pass on!
And I KNOW that just b/c an adopted child does not look like me or may not want to play baseball or enjoy scrapbooking WILL NOT make me love them any less! I will love all of them for just being them, with the unconditional love that every child deserves.
I will embrace the physical appearance differences and personality differences that might be inherited from their bio family AND be amazed by all the things that our adopted child does "inherit" from us through learning and modeling what we do as parents.
-m
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