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A child that looked like my dh was something I really grieved when we turned to adoption. I will even admit to being so shallow as to worry that the SW would'nt choose a child that was "cute" enough. I think it was all part of the sense of loss of control that often comes with adoption.
Well all of that went away completely when our fisrt child was placed with us. He was not exactly the most beautiful baby objectively but every square milimeter of him seemed perfect to me. I just couldn't get enough of looking at him.
My dh an I are reasonably attractive people, sort of average with a couple of good features but by pure happenstance all four kids are gorgeous (I can say that as I had nothing to do with it).
I think they are far more attractive that what dh and I would have made together. Not tat it matters once they are yours. You ca't imagine wanting a child that looks any other way.
lisa
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