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MJ - I completely love your attitude about this subject. I have grieved over not having bio children, and think I'm mostly over it, but sometimes it still creeps up. DH and I too have giggled about our worst attributes and what we may have passed onto a bio child. Of course every parent thinks theirs is the most beautiful, but we all have little things about us that we would like to change. Even personality traits and attitudes we may have could be passed on. Anyway, I thought I would share what DH and I did one Saturday afternoon.
We went to a restaurant/arcade place here called Dave and Buster's and they have this photo machine that takes a picture of you and your spouse seperately. It then combines the pictures to your specifications on hair color and gender and "creates" your potential child. It's really very funny and our child looked very cute and very evil at the same time. We had a good laugh and thought about how sneaky she would have been just from the look in her eyes. Some may think this was stupid, but it really helped us realize you never know what kind of child you would produce.
We have seen several children out in public and commented how much he/she looked like us when we were little. Anyone can produce a child that looks nothing like them, my nephew for instance has red hair, and his parents both have dark brown. Anyway, I appreciate grieving over what your bio child would have looked like, and I guess time and humor are the only things that have gotten me past the crying and hoping and dreaming. Now I just really look forward to meeting my future adoptive children and seeing what they look like!
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