gretaP wrote..i spent the last 5 years ignoring the pain, chanting the proud mantra "i did the right thing- the best thing for him."
I call that the hero role.. Hero's can't cry.. Hero's can't get angry.. Real angry.
I think that if one works at the healing one can heal..
Doing the darn grief work.. Going into it and then out the other side..
In the Healing Wall section some of us are doing the Artist Way by Julia Cameron..
she writes on page 54..
"..........,I see that I have written a good deal about pain. This is no coincidence. It may be different for others, but pain is what it took to teach me to pay attention. In times of pain, when the future is too terrifying to contemplate and the past too painful to remember, I have learned to pay attention to right now.. "
me.... I underlined that last line.. Recently my husband went through some hard medical stuff.. My dad has had another mini stroke..
I am staying in the moment big time.. It really helps.. I tell myself that all I got to do is be in right now.. and that hard stuff will pass..
And I also tell myself that I can not control anything..
Jackie