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I haven't gone through what you're going through and I'm pretty new to all this. But I will be thinking about you and praying for your family.
I'm in the process of adopting a 14 year old and have done and continue to do lots of reading. No one could tell me for sure if my daughter was capable of attaching, so I knew she might be RAD. Sexual abuse was a possibility, but not documented. She had boundary issues, so they were quite happy to place her with a single mother. She's currently in a therapeutic residence and finally getting the comprehensive therapy she's needed for a long time.
If you haven't read Nancy Thomas's books, you might want to consider it. Others in this forum can provide website. Her methods can seem extreme, but she appears to have a phenominal success rate with kids others have given up on.
My thought was that anything I could do to "therapeutically parent" could only aid what the professionals are doing in regular therapy for my daughter.
There are also therapists that do attachment workshops and counseling that can help a lot.
Family therapy could be really helpful for you.
None of this will be easy. But the right team of professionals can make a huge difference.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
E.J.
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