[sugarbabysmommy]

David, We have always felt very blessed that our child's birthfather was very involved and still is. Going into adoption we were told it would be rare to get to know or even to met a birthfather.

" Who tells him. "Yes, that is your child and your responsiblity and I will help you and support you through this. Adoption might be the best choice for your child, but you need to be involved as you are an important part of the process......."

I even think the sides that try to help the bdads are misguided. Their mantra is "know your rights!". I would rather hear them say "be responsible and become part of the decision. Support the birthmother and the baby"."

Our child's birthfather was told these things. All the best to you, and keep raisng that voice. Congratulations on the first year of your son's life.

To the original poster, has a private investigator been hired to locate him? It is an expense but I'd want to know I did everything in my power to find this person. As for the legal questions, can't your own attorney answer these?