[taurusgal29]

david...

i have read your posts in the past. unfortunately, i think you're the exception rather than the norm when it comes to birthfathers. you seem to be a very kind and compassionate man. in a perfect world, there would be no need to even seek out birthfathers, as he and the birthmother would be living together in peace and harmony. but, obviously, that's just not the case.
i'm sure it sometimes sounds harsh (i know i, for one, am guilty) when people talk about birthfathers. i totally see your point. a birthfather should be more than just a legal barrier that an adoptive family needs to overcome. he should be a willing participant in the adoption triad.
i understand that...but again, not all birthfathers are like that. i can only speak from experience, but our birthfather doesn't care what's best for our little girl. i won't go into lots of details, but i can tell that he's nowhere near the stand-up kind of man that you are.