Trina: Thank you from an adoptee perspective, I aways value experience and comments from those who had lived thru it first hand.
Jenboys: Thanks for the congrats. We are all excited about our new baby. He is truly spoiled with four people ready to pick him up at the latest wimper.
E has a letter from his birthmother, that I am holding until the appropiate time ( late teens and/or definetly by age 18). Unfortunately, his adoption is closed. All I have is her first name and background medical. I've tried over the years thru the adoption agency to open it up a little but they've lost contact with her and she has moved to another state. We almost met once when he was 2 years old but she declined at the last minute.
I like the letter idea and I will add that book to our other books on adoptions, you can never have too many. Thanks. Sometimes I leave the adoption books "laying around" in the open, so they can read it. It works other times its under the bed or the floor.
I agree its hard for us as parents because we want to protect them from any hurt. Occasionaly he has said some meanthings to his younger brother and me, never his Dad (Hmm, I still wonder why). Then he will apologize and give me and hug or kiss.
I know this is just the beginning... but I am here for the long ride whether its up or down
Yasta
mom to 3 boys 9,6 and 2 months