Why live in fear? Tell you what. Practice with me. What is it you are afraid of? Would you like to call me? You can just practice a few times to get all the nerves out. I will let you do that? My email is
mmmlikebuttah@socal.rr.com.
Email me. Identify yourself, and we'll practice, I'll give you my phone numbers and we'll just go from there. I understand it's scary.
Here's a little background FYI. I placed a call to my birthdaughter. She called me right back. But we still haven't met. I called her as soon as I found her, 5/29/04. She called me right back 5/30/04. We set up a few meetings, but she hasn't been able to meet me, yet. She sent me two photos. I've sent her all kinds of momentos, personal items to help her put our faces together, to create an "us-ness" and I'm waiting for her call. Meanwhile, I just hold it together, knowing that she will call. Monday she received the big UPS package I sent her: my parent's wedding photos; their wedding bands; my mother's wedding ensemble; her engagement pin; all my school portraits; more personal family portraits; personal items that were handmade for my mother and me and worn by us; and more items; and newspaper articles on our family for her to have a feeling of connectedness. It's been 30 years and since I relinquished her; if I have to wait another 30 years, then I will.
I know she is alive and has been cherished.
Most importantly: I know others whom I reach out to for support, I read, I ask for support, and help any who ask me questions for support, making myself available, too.
Isn't this just what we're all about? We're all conquering some fears, and believe me, you're helping me, too. I am honored to be of any help I can.
I contacted her birthfather and birthuncle also. Both apologized to me for what I went through, because I was abandoned and told to abort her. They told me how wrong they were! Over and over! Wow! I had no one to help me then, no options but to think of her higher good, when I relinquished her. I suffered, as I still do, all these many years later.
I am sure your birthmother does, as I am sure your birthfather has, if he learns you are searching for him. People will surprise you. They have me, as they have so many in our ever-widening circle of friends as we courageously open our doors to meet more adoptees, birthmothers and birthfathers, adoptive parents, and all our families. Trust me on this one, sweetie. Let's get that door open for you. You are strong, and you are ready, aren't you? Time to practice. We have time, loads of time. That's what we're here for, helping each other. Email me when you're ready. I'm a teacher, I'm also completing an accelerated Master's Program, so I've got some time to squeeze you in. I live in Huntington Beach, California. 'ta for now. Be well. M.T. (Marie Terese) Lyons.