Can you get any photos? Any school, classmates-type for any comparisons? If not, then go with what you have. What is your gut telling you? Listen to it carefully, quietly; you will have the answer. Stay very calm. Now you must listen to your inner voice. Contact that father, that man. If you are still not sure of your voice, then both men must be contacted. It's one or the other, can't be both, can it?
I am a birthmother, myself. What is so clear for one birthmother, being removed from your situation, is that emotionally your birthmother wants one man to be your birthfather: it is all important to her. I can understand that, completely. However, this is all about finding you; finding all about who you are. And, to do this, it means you must have the courage to delve into an area on your own terms. Own yourself, completely, you will free yourself, and your birthparents, as well. Good luck, I hope this helps in some small way.
M.T. Lyons, birthmother 4/5/1974; found her 5/2004
