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I know I'm late responding, I don't get to read here as often as I'd like.
I totally understand your not wanting to tell the workers. You are right, they would probably be a little less inclined to send you placements.
My only concern with what you wrote is that the children would possibly have to be moved and that's not really fair to them--especially if it can be avoided.
I can tell you from experience--every move sets a child back--even a positive move done very carefully is a big change and the child must relearn all of the routines and has all the "new-ness" to get used to. (New mom & dad, new house, new bed, new smells, new family members, new pets, etc...).
The children in the foster care system have already had BIG losses. I don't think it's really fair to set them up for another one if you can avoid it. As much as we all love having children in our homes, we are all in it FOR THE CHILDREN--so all of our decisions should be made with their best interests at heart, that means that lots of times I've had to put my own feelings on the back burner--and that is SO hard when all I wanted to do was keep that kiddo! (See, I've been where you are ;o) )
Good for you for thinking it through ahead of time!!!
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