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I don't know the background and age of the child you are adopting, but in my case, we had to be very careful in giving my daughter too many gifts at once. I think this is true for almost all foster children.
My daughter was 6 at the time of placement and had been in and out of 5 homes in the previous 2 years. We wanted her to attach to us and not to the gifts we give. She didn't see us as permanent and therefore preferred the presents to our love. We still (1 year and 4 months later) have to be careful in giving her gifts.
You don't want to confuse the child into thinking giving gifts is how you show love. You need to show the love first, build trust and attachment, and then give gifts later. In fact, giving too many gifts can hamper the attachment process.
You may need to talk with your family and let them know that the child's background is different than "normal". Therefore, they may need to alter their ways.
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