[kersey19]

Loretta,

I am a birthmom who received a call last December from Catholic Charities about my daughter. We met on December 20. I can tell you that while I always wanted the phone call I still was in shock from the call.

You might consider softening your explanation of how you found information about her. You might just mention that you have conducted thorough research through Catholic Charities and other public records and her name is the most likely match to his birthmother. That really may be all you need to say about the process.

If this is your husband's bmom, she will need reassurances. The first thing she'll want to know is that he is ok and that he had a happy life. You might move that up in your letter.

One more thought -- "Are you the person we're looking for?" might be a little too direct. I can't find a good suggestion (having trouble with forming sentences today) .... maybe someone else will have a suggestion. Once again -- reassurances (like you've written) are important.

Good luck -- I hope you and your husband have success in locating his bmom.