Hi. My foster children have called me mom because my other children do. When I meet birth moms some have asked me if they call me mama. I say yes and explain that most children their age call women mama. (I take 0-2 years) So far they have all been okay with it. They are just happy that their children are okay and well taken care of and that I am willing to meet them. I send pictures and notes to visits. I try to put them at ease and not see me as a threat. People that know us, know we do foster care so I do not have to explain anything. To everyone else, they are my children. I have been asked questions because they don't look like they could be my birth children. I usually try to be polite. We are in the process of adopting our foster son. He is 21 months old. We have had him since he was 6 days old. He is hispanic, NA and Cauc. My husband and I are both fair skinned and in our 40s. I keep telling my husband that one day I am just going to tell people I sleep around when they ask a rude question. He just laughs at me.
