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>Question for those who have adopted...how do you handle it when somebody (who obviously doesn't know that you've adopted) makes a comment about how your child looks like you?<
I agree with the posters who state that responses depend on the situation, timing and person who comments. My dd looks just like my childhood pictures and even my family, who obviously know she's adopted, comment on our similarities. With them I have to agree that she does look like I did as a child. When strangers make those comments, I smile and thank them because she does have similarities. I don't hide the fact that she's adopted at all and talk about it openly but now my dd is 6 and leads the way in terms of who she wants to tell.
If direct questions are asked about where she got her curly blonde hair, since I'm now auburn, Em tells them that she got her hair from God, so I've taken her lead and let her tell them that she's adopted if she wants to. She's pretty open and tells most of her friends and classmates all about being adopted.
I think we just have to be comfortable with the fact that adoption isn't a dirty word but it also isn't always necessary to have *adoption as the intro to every response.
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